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Memos from Inside the ISIS Battlefield

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Only once in a lifetime does a war so brutal erupt. A war that becomes an official genocide, causes millions to run from their homes, compels the slaughtering of thousands in the most horrific of ways, and inspires terrorist attacks to transpire across the world.

That is the chilling legacy of the ISIS onslaught, and “Only Cry for the Living” takes a profoundly personal, unprecedented dive into one of the most brutal terrorist organizations in the world.

Journalist Hollie McKay offers a raw, on-the-ground journey chronicling the rise of ISIS in Iraq – exposing the group’s vast impact and how and why it sought to wage terror on civilians in a desperate attempt to create an antiquated “caliphate.”

The book, constructed chronologically through “memos,” captures the historical impact of ISIS across Iraq and Syria, as seen through the eyes of sex slave survivors, internally displaced people, persecuted minorities, humanitarian workers, religious leaders, military commanders, and even the terrorists themselves.

It is not only a book that casts a haunting light on some of the darkest corners of the globe, but it is also a narrative brimming with silver-linings that illuminate the resiliency of the human spirit. It’s a tragedy underscored by the heroic efforts of ordinary human beings to pick up the pieces, to fight back, and to believe that their voices matter.

To truly understand the nature of terrorism and extremism—to stop another ISIS from spilling needless blood—we must listen to the lesson of those who lived it, fought it, joined it and rejected it.

Foreword by Jocko Willink

War reveals the complex and often contradictory face of human nature. On one end of the spectrum, people make incredible sacrifices to care for others. They protect, they defend, and they nurture those who cannot take care of themselves. Some heroic people will do anything to safeguard their families and their friends; sometimes people even make valiant sacrifices for those they don’t actually know at all. War can unveil these beautiful and moving sacrifices.

But war also exposes the most vile and despicable of behaviors. Torture. Rape. Murder. Genocide. The ability for human beings to commit abhorrent atrocities with wanton disregard for morality is sadly displayed over and over again. Evil does exist. It is critical that, as human beings, we never forget our nature—and our potential—for both good and evil. We must remember that we are capable of glorious and benevolent actions—acts that will bring light, love and laughter into the world.

We must also remember that, as human beings, we are capable of demonic and reprehensible behavior that propel the world toward darkness. We must remember. Only Cry for the Living serves a share of our memory—and thereby, our conscience. This book, written by the incredibly courageous Hollie McKay, takes us deep into the psyche of war. She achieves this not only by simply reporting on what happens during war, but also by interviewing and conversing with those who directly participated in or were personally impacted by war.

Hollie has spent extensive time on the ground in the Middle East, including Afghanistan, Syria, Pakistan, and Iraq––where she witnessed first-hand the fight of Kurdish, Syrian, Iraqi, and American forces against the sadistic rise of ISIS, also known as ISIL or Da’esh. Through her detailed and intense writing, Hollie brings us onto the battlefield with her. We can feel the impact of explosions. We can hear sniper rounds being fired. We can see the rubbled buildings and war-torn streets.

We can smell blood, fire and death. She lets us listen in on her conversations. We talk with ISIS sympathizers who murdered on behalf of their twisted caliphate. Hollie introduces us to the vile miscreants that traveled from first-world countries to fight for this wretched nightmare of a state controlled by Islamic extremists. Hollie allows us to see the difference between those who willing volunteer as ISIS fighters and people–– such as a fourteen-year-old child soldier––indoctrinated and brainwashed into doing ISIS’s sinister bidding on the battlefield. Through her interviews, we see the face of evil. But Hollie also introduces us to heroes.

We meet the soldiers that take the fight to the enemy, including the “Black Devils,” a name given by the opposition, who ruthlessly hunted down and killed ISIS fighters. Perhaps serving an even worse fate to ISIS are the female Kurdish soldiers who hunt and kill insurgents. Their efforts deliver the insult of an afterlife without paradise for the fanatical enemy fighters, who believe death at the hands of a woman precludes them from that so-called paradise.

Moreover, Hollie brings us into heartfelt discussions with Yadizi women who were captured, tortured, starved, and raped, but who survived and show indomitable strength as they carry on with their lives. These are just some of the examples of the views Hollie delivers in this book—views not only of war, but of human nature. While I do not wish war on anyone, I do wish a better understanding of war for all of us.

That is what Hollie McKay does with this book: she gives us all a better understanding of war and human nature. It is not a comfortable read.

It is not a pleasant read. It is an important read. But don’t just read it. Remember it.

Jocko Willink November 2020


“A fearless quest for human truth amidst inhumane atrocity. First-hand stories from both victims and perpetrators of the ISIS occupation of Iraq that you’ll never forget.” – Neil Strauss, NY Times Best-Selling Author of “The Game”

“Hollie McKay delivers a riveting and poignant account of war behind terrorist enemy lines, the personal stories of the victims and their profound legacy” – Daniel Hoffman, former CIA Chief of Station

Hollie’s experiences in the Middle East rival quite a few Iraqi war veterans. Her ability to talk with the Iraqi people and see the inside of their relationships with each other as well as the enemy is unbelievable. This book is a must read for anyone who wants to understand The effect ISIS has had on an already a war torn country.” – Kris “Tanto” Paronto, Benghazi Survivor